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So I recently dipped my toe into the online dating (cough, cesspool, cough) pool. A few nights ago, I got stood up by a 62 year old man I met online. We exchanged texts and pictures over two days. He said he had been recently burned by a woman he was in a 4-year relationship with (she secretly got married to her baby daddy unbeknownst to him) and that he was looking for honesty, trust, and friendship. He seemed to ne saying the right things, so when he asked me out for dinner, I said yes. The day before we confirmed the time and place,but only had a shiet text exchange. The day of I felt uneasy, so I texted him and said I would be coming in an Uber so if tveed was any change in plans, please give me some advance notice. He said “Absolutely. But I will be there. ” Fast forward to that evening. I arrived 10 minutes early and was seated at a table. I kept looking at my phone and couldn’t help notice all the people around me having a good time. 15 minutes passed. Then 30. I texted him to say I was at the restaurant and was concerned that he wasn’t there and hadn’t heard from him. I said J would be leaving in 10 minutes.

He didn’t show. I felt awful. I hadn’t been stood up in over 20 years. My waitress was wonderful. She expressed sympathy, said it had happened to her, and told me there was a special table in the bar/lounge area waiting for me and that she/the restaurant would be happy to buy me a drink, appetizer, and dessert. I took her up on her offer and was treated like a queen. Even if she hadn’t offered,,I was thinking about going to the bar/,lounge. After all, I spent 2 hours getting ready and $20 on an Uber. I had a good time and a fantastic margaritas.

When I got home, I texted the jerk who stood me up to tell him I would have appreciated the courtesy of advance notice of his needing to cancel and that he should never contact me again I sometimes wish I was the type of person who didnneed to send that kind of message to get closure and could move on without doing it, but I’m not. I also now question if anything that guy told me was true. I read an article about the psychology behind the no-show behavior. One of the things it said was that some people lead others on to validate themselves. They just want to know that they make someone interested and have no intention on meeting or following through. Sone people may also have social anxiety, but it seems to me that the guy in the situation I just described very well could have been using me to validate his self-worth .

So today I’m supposed to have a first date –a coffee date– with another guy I met online. We started talking over a week ago. He lives an hour away from me. He has his own business and works a lot. We’ve exchanged several messages. Except for one other time and today, he’s been quick to respond. A few days ago, we confirmed meeting at a coffee shop near me. He gave me a tentative time of 2pm but said he might be able to make it earlier and would let me know. We made these plans before the weekend, and I was disappointed he didn’t Sat anything about meeting over the weekend. He told me he was single, but my intuition is telling me he might have a girlfriend or somebody. I could be wrong. I was waiting to meet to see if I could ask why he didn’t suggest getting together over the weekend.

Back to today. When l by 10am I hadn’t heard from him, I texted him and asked if we were still on. I saud J would appreciate hearing from him either way so I could plan my day. Over an hour later, and no reply. It’s so infuriating ni get that sone people aren’t planners, but 0 communication equates to a total lack of consideration. Any advice on what I should,(,or shouldn’t do) next? I’m trying to resist the urge to tell him off or text again.

Thanks.

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If it’s more than a few days before that you make the plans, I recommend confirming again a day before.

Noo. Why give them all the power with this response??