Comments on: Chivalry vs. Equality in Dating

By: Angus

Angus — Fri, 02 May 2025 02:30:40 +0000

In reply to Jerome Alexander. No, that's popular opinion, at least for me :). I am a man 100% agree

By: Jerome Alexander

Jerome Alexander — Wed, 08 Sep 2021 05:43:54 +0000

I don’t agree with chivalry at all. It’s so sexist. Does a man not deserve to feel special.? I’ll do nice things like open a door or pay for dinner but I do it because I’m nice. I’ll do it fir a man or a woman but not on the basis of gender. No one has ever been able to communicate to me what men get out of chivalry. Sure it’s nice to be appreciated but I need something tangible. In a relationship, I’ll take care of myself and you take care of yourself and it’s all good. Unpopular opinion, I know.

By: Varsha

Varsha — Sat, 27 Feb 2021 05:12:28 +0000

In reply to Erika. First of all, he’s clearly not trying to impress anyone with his statement. Second of all, what you said about “no man should give up the desire to feel appreciated” was wrongly used in this context. That is like saying every man has the right to be a personal slave. I mean if that’s their choice, whatever, because personally, I wouldn’t want that. Also side note, women don’t need to feel special. We aren’t entitled to that. Anyways, I think that women want independence but when it’s too uncomfortable, we rely on things like chivalry. Regardless, this was pretty interesting to think about and I hope you have a good day!

By: Johnathan

Johnathan — Tue, 15 Dec 2020 00:13:21 +0000

Feminists want equality for all of the fun things like more money and power, but when they are asked to pay their fair share of the tab at a restaurant or serve in the front lines in the army all of a sudden they get all quiet. You can’t have your cake and eat it too.

By: Joe

Joe — Tue, 09 Jun 2020 20:21:15 +0000

In reply to Richard Mercer. Chivalry was popular during a time when women played a certain role in the home. I don’t think women want to go back to those days. The end of chivalry will mark a big step forward towards women’s equality...unless that is not the goal.

By: Erika

Erika — Thu, 07 Nov 2019 19:54:47 +0000

In reply to Boz.

I could not disagree with these comments more. You’re correct that no one should feel entitled — men or women — but I do recommend maintaining some form of chivalry. Why? It’s nice. It makes a woman feel special. No woman should ever give up the desire to feel special. And no man should give up the desire to feel appreciated. But telling women to get over themselves is not the way to impress someone, I tell you that.

By: Boz

Boz — Tue, 05 Nov 2019 02:10:29 +0000

In reply to Erika.

As a man I would suggest that modern women need to get over themselves. You don’t “need” us to buy you stuff, to “take control and wait on you hand and foot to make you feel special, you just like it and who wouldn’t.

However we believe in equality now and those traditional ways of men and women relating are no longer relevant, so you should be willing to give them up. I would suggest that relating to men in the same way that you do a close female friend . You do nice things for each other because you like each other, instead of a one sided transaction.

By: Kathy

Kathy — Sat, 29 Dec 2018 20:01:29 +0000

In reply to Erika. I agree with Linda. Sharing occasionally tells the man you care and are a friend. Kathy

By: Erika

Erika — Thu, 22 Nov 2018 01:36:26 +0000

In reply to KL. Generalizations never help people, so I advise you to re-think your assumptions. Wish you all the best.

By: Erika

Erika — Thu, 22 Nov 2018 01:35:31 +0000

In reply to Linda Zlotoff. Glad you enjoyed the article and found some of the points applicable.