Comments on: Looking for “The One”? Try Dating NATO. https://www.alittlenudge.com/2019/09/looking-for-the-one-try-dating-nato/ Fri, 27 Sep 2019 18:14:40 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.2 By: Tom Miccolis https://www.alittlenudge.com/2019/09/looking-for-the-one-try-dating-nato/#comment-200047 Fri, 27 Sep 2019 18:14:40 +0000 https://www.alittlenudge.com/?p=1759#comment-200047 This is an EXCELLENT article and suggestion.
The empirical evidence is overwhelming – especially when it comes to dating over 40.
In my personal experience, too many women need “instant Chemistry” in order to keep dating someone past the first or second date.
Sadly this seemingly metaphysical “Chemistry” thing usually translates to “the 6 sixes” or being some sort of Jason Momoa look-alike.
While that may “sound” somewhat jaded the facts support it and it truly is “the ugly truth” nowadays. I have literally had many women (yes over 40 and even over 50) tell me, in person, “I just want to bang a HOT guy ASAP!”. So unfortunately the whole “Chemistry” word is just an overused, euphemistic shorthand expression for “I’m not attracted to you and don’t have any sexual interest…..but no hard feelings.”

On the other hand, as a Man, being “Friend Zoned” by a potential romantic partner is not fun. It’s rejection.
So I make it clear early on that “I’m not here (dating you) to end up being your girlfriend with a penis”.
This is where Erika and I most likely disagree.

So attractive, single, available women over 40 that have radiance, character, honesty depth, patience and focus on what Men and relationships are truly about are becoming a rare commodity nowadays. However, that is all the more reason to Not Attach To Outcome so early on in dating and instead focus on “living in the moment” and eventually being able to truly cherish “the real deal” when she appears.

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