Thanks for the advice! I have trouble keeping my messages short because I feel like short messages are a sign that you’re not interested in the other person at all.

I was talking to somebody a few ago who only wrote two brief messages after I sent her a thoughtful message. She ended up unmatching me after I sent her another message asking for more details about her interests.

While I wouldn’t try to “game” it as your friend suggests, I do recommend not oversharing in the initial messages. The goal is to get to a call or a date, not share your life story. But I know some people just can’t help themselves. 😉

Much appreciated!

Why are you suggesting that the woman call you vs. you calling her? You’ll do better the second way. Most women still want the guy to make the first move.

I would recommend keeping the first message on the shorter side, but still specific to her profile. Then, once she responds, you can gradually write more. What is likely happening is that sometimes, someone might look at the sheet length and be scared off by it and not even read it. I don’t want that to happen to you!

2. I have also found that some women are so obsessed with texting that several have immediately rejected me when I told them that they would have to call me, because (by choice) I cannot receive texts. I consider texting to be communication without connection. Everybody’s texting device has a phone attached to, it anyway.

I have a habit of sending long messages on dating apps because I want women to see more of my personality and hobbies than I have room to talk about in my profile. I always make sure to ask questions after sharing a bit about myself too. Sometimes it works really well and the person I’m talking to sends long messages in return. Other times I don’t get a response and I think I’m writing too much at once. Do you have any advice?