1) You are not meeting anyone. Maybe you live in a small, rural town with no single men at work.

2) You are unrealistically picky. This happens after divorce, when women have happy youthful memories of handsome middle-aged men suitors. Your former suitors are now much older. Divorced middle-aged men are often paying alimony and child support. Never-married men can be playboys. Pick your poison. The handsome, rich ones are often dating younger women.

The problem is that dating sites shows you an unlimited “catalog” of men, and advertise the most attractive ones to lure customers. Make fake profiles to assess the competition. Are you expecting to get matched with men who can date younger, thinner, prettier women?

3) You don’t appreciate what men want. Successful men do not want difficult, “challenging” women who brag about careers. If you are sassy, successful, and sarcastic then you are probably bitter and belligerent. Men want pretty, fun, amiable, feminine women. Attractive people don’t stay single for long. Instead, dating sites are poisoned by losers and time vampires who send many messages. You need to set boundaries, and avoid first dates at 11:00 p.m. But you cannot jerk a good man around with inflexibility. They have many other options. Too many women think they can order men off the internet. These women try to schedule convenient coffee dates, they are late, inappropriately dressed, etc. These women are not ready when they meet a good man, and don’t get a second date. Attractive men are not there to audition for a second date. Men think “She scheduled a convenient date, showed up late, expected me to pay, and looked or acted like _that_?”